Because there is something we’re not really dealing with in Homoland. It’s not HIV, but I’d argue a lot of our new HIV infections are caused by it.
I’m talking about the generally poor state of gay men’s mental and emotional health. Britain’s Attitude magazine recently did a story on it, which got picked up by The […]

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Me. In the Urge Mr Leather competition last Friday. In case you were wondering.
I have never entered a competition like this before, and I very much doubt I ever shall again, but I have to say it was a lot of fun. It was the persistent bullying of the owners while I was in a […]

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I haven’t written about sex in oh, at least an hour, so why not start again. Actually, it’s part of my job, doing my PhD, writing about sex and how gay men have sex - and I usually enjoy it - the writing I mean. Oh, and the fieldwork.
I’ve been thinking about what it was […]

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I listened to a couple of guys I know the other day making jokes about lesbians. Not nice jokes. These were gay guys too, not idiotic straights - and it made me wonder: Why do some gay men seem to find lesbians hard to deal with?
I’ve always had dyke friends, since I was 17 or […]

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Every now and then I get an email from some dating site I joined up and lost interest in, telling me someone has left me a message.
They’re usually from Ghana or somewhere in the old USSR, telling me how much they loved my profile and that distance is no obstacle to our love -  […]

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Some of you will be aware of this story that has been doing the rounds this week.
Two men, lovers, in Malawi, have been sentenced to 14 years in prison for getting engaged, for publicly acknowledging their love for each other and for being public about the fact they are men who love men.
Malawi is an […]

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Such an interesting set of reactions to my blog on BP, from enthusiastic to damning - no real surprise there.
Any group trying to support people with HIV has some major issues to deal with. In New Zealand we have somewhere between 1,500 - 2,000 people living with HIV. Across the entire country. This is a […]

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Which label fits you best? Which one do you use for yourself ? Or do you hate them all? I think a number of us have had these words spat out at us as terms of hatred at times, and that’s always nasty.
I generally tend to call myself gay, but will also use poof or […]

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I was interested to read this article on gaynz about the magazine “Collective Thinking” and how Body Positive (BP) and others view it and where it should be.
Now, let me declare my potential conflicts of interest up front: I have written for the magazine a number of times. I have close links to NZAF as […]

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It’s easy for a lot of us to think that now we’ve got all those legal battles behind us, you know, we’re legal now, can’t be discriminated against for being a homo, can get a Civil Union if you want, to think that it’s just fine and dandy for everyone else who’s gay in the […]

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